🧸 Freddy

✅ “Playing a claw machine”

Playing a claw machine was a bad idea. It was just a disaster. Because there’s no way to win, trust me.

We spent one full hour and around 200 tokens there. It cost us about 100 bucks. Not too much, but I’d rather spend them on champagne.

There is some good news here, too. At least during a disaster date, you can assess your partner's mental health. You can see how they handle difficulties, deal with failures and disappointments, and how quickly they lose their temper. Will they be supportive of you in all situations? And most importantly, you can find out who will be the first person saying, “Fuck it. Let's go for a drink."

I realized I picked up this idea from all american romcom movies I've been watching since I was a teenager. All the couples there seem to have a great time playing games, and the scenes always end with a big prize they won. They're all liars!

You know what? To be honest, I don't like toys. And I obviously don't need them in my home. What would I do with a soft kangaroo, bear, rabbit, or Pokemon toy? I don't want them at all! I'm a 34-year-old woman, not a 7-year-old girl.

So why am I doing it? It's not about me having a boyfriend. It's about my dad. I wish I could share that kind of moment with my dad and be a kid again. But it never happened to me. At least, because I’ve never met my real dad.

My mom raised me as a single parent. When I was 8 years old, she started dating another man, who then became my stepfather. They are still together. But we never spent fun time together with him, like playing claw machines.

So, I was the first person who said “Fuck it. Lets go for a drink”.

We ended up riding bikes to a beach bar and having some drinks. This project gave me the opportunity to openly talk about relationships’ topics and ask questions that people usually don't ask on first dates (or at least I don’t).

We talked about our online dating experiences. I learned that all these Tinder things aren’t that easy for men either, at least not for Freddy. So, it's not just us women who suffer from endless texting that leads nowhere, from people who upload 10-year-old photos, lie about their age, cancel meetings, and drop off the radar. 

You've probably seen in movies how women on a date pretend they need to go to the bathroom and then just leave. It turns out that this not only happens in movies, it's real.